Friday, May 14, 2010

How do i get my sister to say no to a creeper that she cares for?

Ok so my sister is rather flirtatious and has a pretty good sum of guys who like her. One of these guys Kyle, is going through a tough time with a divorce in his family and some medical issues and goes to my sister for comfort. He even calls in the middle of the night to inform her that he thinks he is going to die. But she thinks that the only way she can make him feel really better and for him not to commit suicide is to date him, and then stop when we she feels that he has felt better. Normally I am not one to interfere with my sisters decisions, but this guy is causing her more pain then gain. And for the last week he is trying to ask her out. I said to my sister that if you pull the parent card and say you cant date, i will report Kyle to the shrink and get him the help he needs. Is there anything else i can do to stop this guy from causing stress in my sisters life, and prevent her from dating him.

How do i get my sister to say no to a creeper that she cares for?
Get him a good hooker.
Reply:Kyle is feeding on your sis's symapthy. Misery loves company and it sounds like that's what he's doing. You can't really interfere in her relationship with him. I suggest that you tell her that he's a loser, but you are there for her and care. Hopefully, she'll get tired of his lines of baloney and drop him.
Reply:normally i would say to mind your own business but in this case this guy seems to want attention and is using your sister to cling to. i think your sister needs to toughen up and kindly suggest that this guy gets help from a professional. your sister is not responsabile for this person other than suggesting that he get some help.
Reply:lol sgt pepper


maybe try speaking to the creeper
Reply:You know...as much as you would like to help her...you cant stop her from dating him. Sometimes the best way to help people is to let them make their mistakes and figure things out on their own. I know its hard to see your sister go down this path but you cant make someone listen to you and sometimes they need to make mistakes to figure out what to do next in their life. Besides if she learns the hard way on her own, she will know better next time. Hang in there, she will come to you eventually.
Reply:Chances are if you try to pull her away from him, you will only push her to him more. She feels sorry for the guy and yes, she should possibly talk to her school counselor and let them know he's talked suicide. With the dateing thing she can either do as you said and say her parents wont let her date yet, or that she has has to have you with her. Maybe make it a double date. Just dont let her be alone with this guy. He may actually be ok but is just going thru some rough times and needs the support of a good friend. Someone to talk to that will listen and not judge.


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